Of all the problems of my transition...

Transition is no picnic regardless of your situation.

All the money in the world would not solve some issues.

Being Canadian has permitted me to be on the other side of GRS, but, GRS didn't make me suddenly sufficiently 'female' to get anywhere with dating.

I see it and hear it even with guys who are nice and accepting. They like me just fine, "as a friend" but, they don't want to have sex with me let alone a relationship.

Because it's not enough to have breasts and a vagina, they can't stop thinking, "Lesley was once a guy" even if that statement is factually false. I've never been male, but, I once had a penis and testicles and likely have done everything they've ever done.

My big problem is there's almost no solution to finding a man.
It's hard for cisfemales to find a man.
But I have to further deplete the pool of available single males to weed out the ones who would have a problem with my being transgender.

It's frustrating, that I can't even compete with fat ugly poorly dressed women. No, I'm not fat shaming, I'm just being blunt. I've seen fat NOT pretty women pushing babies in strollers. Here I am fairly attractive, and a virgin. I couldn't get knocked up even if GRS came with a womb and ovaries unless I used a sperm bank.

There's no shortage of gay men and lesbian women in the world. And even THOSE groups have large slices of their members who don't like me. If it's not the TERFS hating on me and calling me an attack on women's safety spaces and not real women, it's gay men saying my brothers are not real men if they have a vagina.

I'm part of the acronym, but, some days, I think the other part of the acronym doesn't want to include me in their sexual liberation campaign. I'm just a boring hetero. I'm not lesbian, or bi, or pan, or poly, or any of the odd permutations of what to fuck.

Hetero men don't want me, and all I want is just a boring hetero man.
I just want a boring standard issue male, nothing odd, interesting, or different.

I married a teddy bear out of desperation (sorry Frank, but you already know this).
I decided it is better to look weird, but feel like I had someone, anyone, even if a teddy bear, than to just go day to day with the reality of having no one at all.

I gave up on owning a house for the same basic reasons.
Yeah, on my joke of an income, I CAN actually buy a house. 50k or less.
They exist, usually in markets so wretched because of location and not a reflection of the value of the actual house. I have seen houses for 50k that would immediately leap to 250k if you dropped in Lindsay.
But, the reality is, I'd have to discard the rest of my current life to move to where it would be.
Windsor Ontario, lots of houses for peanuts. No doctor, no dentist, no church, no friends, no family. But I get a house I can sit in all alone. And a mortgage I'd be lucky to pay off before I die.

I decided the doctor/dentist/church/friends/family were a better deal.

But living here means the chances of stumbling over Mr. Lesley's husband is almost impossible.
Trump will make sense long before I find a guy able to realize I'm a real great find.

Lesley Niyori wrote:Transition is no picnic regardless of your situation.

True.

All the money in the world would not solve some issues.

True or false, depending on what context you place onto "some". It would solve some issues, but if by some you mean certain specific issues, then no it will not some some certain specific issues, like misandric, unenlightened people who hate you for being male in the past. These are the type of people who never forgive honest mistakes.

Being Canadian has permitted me to be on the other side of GRS, but, GRS didn't make me suddenly sufficiently 'female' to get anywhere with dating.

I understand your dilemma.

I see it and hear it even with guys who are nice and accepting. They like me just fine, "as a friend" but, they don't want to have sex with me let alone a relationship.

Now you and I both know each other's problems. I have the same problem with women. Except the kind of friendship some of them offer isn't even a real friendship, just endless texting where it feels like an interrogation and I never get to have lunch with them or anything.

Because it's not enough to have breasts and a vagina, they can't stop thinking, "Lesley was once a guy" even if that statement is factually false. I've never been male, but, I once had a penis and testicles and likely have done everything they've ever done.

Yes this is a product of misandry and unenlightened minds.

My big problem is there's almost no solution to finding a man.
It's hard for cisfemales to find a man.

False on both accords. 1. I gave you a trick which may increase your odds of finding man, however if that fails, I also offered diet and exercise. If that fails, then you can try plastic surgery. I did not specify that the solutions would be morally fair, but there are solutions. Furthermore, you exacerbate conditions by saying you only want a man if it leads to marriage, many men are not interested in that, and some men are interested in that but are sexually frustrated and want sex before marriage or the relationship will feel uncomfortable to them (a sexless marriage is a nightmare for many, and they want to know for sure it will not happen to them, as many men suffer from low confidence and mistreatment from women, causing them to develop low trust levels for females. Also a nightmare is many years of unsatisfied lust, yet another nightmare is awkward, uncomfortable dates of sexual frustration and forced repression of sexual arousal).

It's hard for cisfemales to find a man.

2. I do not know what planet you are on but it is not the planet I am on. Because most of the cis girls on OkCupid complain about getting too many messages and attention from men. And not a day goes by when a woman does not complain on the internet about getting unwanted male attention in the real space. The struggles you experience may be unique to you since you do not have the same life experience as a cis female.

But I have to further deplete the pool of available single males to weed out the ones who would have a problem with my being transgender.

True, as with many transwomen, you are playing the game of life with a disadvantage or handicap.

It's frustrating, that I can't even compete with fat ugly poorly dressed women. No, I'm not fat shaming, I'm just being blunt. I've seen fat NOT pretty women pushing babies in strollers. Here I am fairly attractive, and a virgin. I couldn't get knocked up even if GRS came with a womb and ovaries unless I used a sperm bank.

True, this is the trans disadvantage, and it is a result of misandry. Males are typically viewed as lower social worth than females, so a male has to be exceptionally beautiful or powerful to compete with simply average females. When a male crosses over to become a female, if they are still detected as male (or once male) they usually still inherit the same misandry and second class status as before (unless of course they are exceptionally beautiful or powerful).

There's no shortage of gay men and lesbian women in the world. And even THOSE groups have large slices of their members who don't like me. If it's not the TERFS hating on me and calling me an attack on women's safety spaces and not real women, it's gay men saying my brothers are not real men if they have a vagina.

True. And this is part of the reason I have disdain for the LGBT community (Although the other reason is because of all the lies, apathy or abuse I have suffered from transgendered persons.)

But living here means the chances of stumbling over Mr. Lesley's husband is almost impossible.
Trump will make sense long before I find a guy able to realize I'm a real great find.

Not to be the bearer of bad news but Mr. Trump has been on a steady decline of making less and less sense every day. He started out as a Knight on a quest to rid the world of fake news, and now it seems he is the main bearer of Fake News itself.

Hi Lesley and Angel!

Ya look ok Lesley, you'd be surprised how many men would go dating with you. For me, being entire, it's not that much harder, there are plenty of guys that like women like me too. It's finding one that will stick around that is hard, and one that I would want to too.

And money can indeed make a very big difference. I'm saving a little gradually for a couple of things, one is personal, so I 'aint gonna say but the others are having a facelift and my apple shaved. I'm not poor, but far from uber-rich and at the moment I'm having two tattoos removed that I don't want anymore coz I'm getting on a bit and they don't look right. When they have finally disappeared I'll post pics of them from fresh to gone. It's a long progress and is not cheap, but they should be gone in a few months.

At my age, I know I have to keep up, to keep improving stuff, little by little, but more and more. I might have the facelift next, it's the only way to try to remain at least a little bit fuckable and have a chance.

If money were no object I'd have a dozen things done I'd like to improve!

Celia xx