Stuff Is Happening

Zedarius Mon Aug 06, 2018 8:22 am

Hello All,

It has been a while since I've posted anything. I haven't had much change since before this forum...

But anyway, my main point - I have an appintment with the Gender Clinic in 2 weeks! My first appointment with them is on the 21st of this month Very Happy

So, finally, things can start happening

**MichaelaSJ** Mon Aug 06, 2018 6:46 pm

Zedarius - this is good news.

The following assumes that you can very early on determine a high level of confidence in your clinician.

My only advice is to 'spill the beans'. Do not hold back any information. Cleanse your soul. The rest of your life depends on how you communicate who you are to the person sitting across the table/room from you.

GOOD LUCK Exclamation

**Kaibeth** Mon Aug 06, 2018 7:57 pm

Yay! That first step is a doozy! I agree 110% -- tell ALL! Leave nothing out.

**Celia Eriksson** Tue Aug 07, 2018 12:37 am

Hi Zed, I am very happy for you. From your post, I am sure you are quite confident anyway, and so you should be!! You'll be fine!

Nice to hear from you! Let us know how you get on. Celia xx

Anna Mull Thu Aug 16, 2018 5:49 am

By now you have less than a week to go, bro. Congrats!

Zedarius Thu Aug 16, 2018 5:54 am

Its this coming Tuesday Very Happy

I'm excited, and terrified...

But apparently I've got the person you want to have (from what I've heard the other is very Gate Keeper-ish... and likes to stick to the 1980's generalisation of "only trans if this, and only this!")

Lesley Niyori Thu Aug 16, 2018 9:18 am

This is me cheering for you Smile

Angelic Thu Aug 16, 2018 2:05 pm

Zedarius wrote:Its this coming Tuesday
I'm excited, and terrified...

But apparently I've got the person you want to have (from what I've heard the other is very Gate Keeper-ish... and likes to stick to the 1980's generalisation of "only trans if this, and only this!")

Hmm did they make you take the gender test? According to the gender test, I am more woman than man, and thus could benefit from a sex-change, but still have manly tendencies.

What is the max woman score you can get on the test?

They gave me hormones, haven't took them yet, if you want to know why send me a PM, there are 3 reasons, the reasons are not why you think and may surprise you. Honestly just, send me a PM because I am really bored and lonely.

Zedarius Thu Aug 16, 2018 2:17 pm

I haven't heard of having to take a "gender test" as being a thing in Australia...

Just that if you don't give that certain Dr the answers he thinks you should (such as MTF are only to be attracted to men, want every surgery, and all Neutral

)... he'll turn people away/deny them HRT... the GC is getting rid of those kinds of Dr's, but there is still one in the clinic... (not who I'll be seeing, thankfully)

They do want a biography thing from me, just explaining how gender, and gender dyphoria effects my life (and ability to live a "normal" life...)

The "how much woman I am" thing... isn't a thing they do anyway... Neutral

Also I'm FTM, so...

Lesley Niyori Thu Aug 16, 2018 3:24 pm

Lesley's advice for anyone anywhere concerning GRS.

Ask lots of questions of THEM, give them whatever bullshit responses you figure they want to hear, and in the end, you can always tell society the truth AFTER you get the surgery you require to be happy.

It's not always easy to discern the professionals to avoid, so a rule of thumb is suspect ALL of them.
Let THEM prove themselves to YOU.

**MichaelaSJ** Thu Aug 16, 2018 9:07 pm

Lesley Niyori wrote:Ask lots of questions of THEM, give them whatever bullshit responses you figure they want to hear, and in the end, you can always tell society the truth AFTER you get the surgery you require to be happy.

I am sorry Lesley but, except for the first phrase in you sentence, you have just given the bullshit of the year advice. Yes, you should always ask questions, a lot if necessary. But, to offer up a line of bullshit responses simply to get what you think you need is both unethical and may hide a reason for not being a good candidate for any procedure, including GCS.

Just because you have had a bad experience somewhere along your path does not give you permission to stink up the helpful answers already put forward in this thread.

Lesley Niyori Thu Aug 16, 2018 9:09 pm

Well, that's a bit harsh, but, you might have a point just as easily.

**Celia Eriksson** Fri Aug 17, 2018 12:40 am

Hi Everyone!

I am certain that Zed was not looking for advice here anyhoo, (though I quite understand why we want to jump in like hens, when he says he is terrified!). We are all with you Zed.... that's clear. The terrified bit is part of the excitement at finally getting to see someone, don't worry!

So, I am 57 and well old enough to contradict myself without recourse. Call it silly old woman stuff. Tell the truth, read Miki's original post, and then there is no reason to be 'terrified', be yourself, yes, be yourself and don't start concocting tales, (even policemen can see through tales), you'll sail through.

Just four days, be excited and happy. And girls, let's support Zed to the hilt!

Celia xx

**MichaelaSJ** Fri Aug 17, 2018 1:49 am

Celia Eriksson wrote:And girls, let's support Zed to the hilt!

GO FOR IT WITH ALL YOU HAVE

**MichaelaSJ** Fri Aug 17, 2018 2:05 am

Zedarius wrote:I haven't heard of having to take a "gender test" as being a thing in Australia..

There are several tests on the internets claiming to give you a reference point as to your gender. A popular on "The Combined Gender Identity And Transsexuality Inventory (COGIATI Test)" is a multi-guess test that only measures how much you want to be of a specific gender - if you have ever taken a test, you will know how to guide your answers for this one.

None of these tests are accurate in any scientific or clinical sense. Remember you are seeking help; advice from the person you will be sitting across from. Do not try to coax a particular answer from him or her. If you think the conversation is heading in a direction contrary to what you believe it should be heading - stop, ask why the clinician is heading off in that direction. Maybe the clinician is misinterpreting what you are saying, maybe the clinician has a bias.

Stay involved in the conversation. You may learn something about yourself you were not aware, maybe a past memory will surface (as in my case) that will cause you to reflect upon something you were not aware of, but will turn out to be wildly important.

In any case - GOOD LUCK!

Zedarius Fri Aug 17, 2018 2:49 am

Thank you all Smile

But, yeah. I'm more than ready to ask 10 000 questions, and get onto the Dr if they start going somewhere for a reason I'm not aware/sure of.

Also - hopefully I'll have a new therapist by today's end - I had a therapist previously who wasn't doing much for me...

I'm going to be seeing a new one today - she frequently has trans patients, and is very knowledgable about trans issues (she is the specialist for gender issues). So hopefully it works out...

But, anyway, ecxited for Tuesday to come - 5 days!!

Angelic Sat Aug 18, 2018 12:34 am

MichaelaSJ wrote:
Lesley Niyori wrote:Ask lots of questions of THEM, give them whatever bullshit responses you figure they want to hear, and in the end, you can always tell society the truth AFTER you get the surgery you require to be happy.
I am sorry Lesley but, except for the first phrase in you sentence, you have just given the bullshit of the year advice. Yes, you should always ask questions, a lot if necessary. But, to offer up a line of bullshit responses simply to get what you think you need is both unethical and may hide a reason for not being a good candidate for any procedure, including GCS.

Just because you have had a bad experience somewhere along your path does not give you permission to stink up the helpful answers already put forward in this thread.

The whole system is set up nonsensically. I am the only rational and reasonable person ever.

So those stories about trans people who regret a sex-change. You know how that can be avoided?

Legalizing prostitution. You get them the finest hooker money can buy. And then after its over, you say "How was that experience? You want to give that experience up for the rest of the world?"

Because "I regret a vagina, for the sake of vagina" said noone ever. You know why people regret a sex-change? Sexual reasons only. They don't find the sex satisfying anymore. "I regret the vagina for the sake of vagina" said noone either. Noone really wants to have a dick so they can hurt their balls and rub it on their pants and chaff their legs. They want a dick for one thing only: sex. You know it and I know it but everyone is so squeamish they won't admit the one and only reason people want to have a dick: Sex.

"I want to have a dick so my balls can get hurt and also rub between my legs and hurt the tip of my dick on my jeans" Said noone ever.

Angelic Sat Aug 18, 2018 12:37 am

MichaelaSJ wrote:
Zedarius wrote:I haven't heard of having to take a "gender test" as being a thing in Australia..

There are several tests on the internets claiming to give you a reference point as to your gender. A popular on "The Combined Gender Identity And Transsexuality Inventory (COGIATI Test)"

Wasn't talkin about that stuff, was talking about the real life stuff in the rooms.

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